It’s been a hell of a month.
I was in an accident. My car was totaled. I’m sad about it but Ben and I had already been throwing around the idea of a more fuel efficient car since I drive 100 miles round trip to get to work every day. We are trying to take the payout for the car, then money we can make selling some of the aftermarkets parts off if it to pay for a used Prius or comparable car.
Ben had surgery on his spine to fix a protrusion the size of a silver dollar. The good news is that the numbness and constant severe pain he was feeling in his leg has gone, the bad news is that recovery from the surgery was not nearly as easy as they made it sound! He’s about a week and a half out from surgery and is slowly getting better every day. He’s even been able to spend a little bit of time at the dog park the last few days.
Oh, and also, we are like totally broke. Well, that’s not completel true but for the first time in a long, long, long time I am REALLY worried about money. And it sucks. I look at everything around the house and wonder what I could sell it for. And the stress is finally starting to break me down. I’m so much more lucky than a lot of people in that Ben and I have a support system, like my amazing Dad and step-mom, but we both REALLY want to NOT have to ask for help. I mean, if it comes to that we are both willing to do it, it’s not so much a pride thing, it’s more of… we REALLY just want to be able to do this. To prove to OURSELVES that we are fighters and willing to do whatever it takes to fix things.
So, I dunno, that’s where I am right now. I know there are a lot of people out there worse of than we are so I feel like an ass complaining about stuff like this but… this is where I am. I don’t know what the future holds for us right now but I know that we are going to face it together and fight it as a team. I’ve heard that money problems like this often are hard on relationships but it’s been the opposite for us. We’ve both realized that no matter how broke we are, a hug, or one of us grabbing the other’s hand while watching the dogs play somehow feels more powerful. We are one and we are going to do this together and this hug, it’s free, and it feels good.
5 thoughts on “In the meantime.”
Money problems are incredibly difficult, I agree. I’ve also found that problems make us get closer because we know we’ve got each other if nothing else. It’s good to know that you have somewhere to turn if you have to but I hope you are able to handle it between the two of you.
Wow sorry to hear about your car accident and the surgery, 🙁 that is one busy month, I agree I am like that with money I panic agree with Amanda is has made me and my husband closer dealing with these issues together *hugs*
I’m sorry to hear about your accident! I know how stressful they can be!!
Oh Anna I am so sorry. I am just really glad that you are both okay. I hope that everything starts getting better for you both. You will be okay. I’m sure you will find some way to make it work. <3
I admire the kind of relationship you have with your partner.. it’s obvious how much you love each other and how much you’re willing to do anything just to keep the relationship in tact despite the odds. I know you’ll get through all these financial problems.. at least you have each other and both of you are alive so I believe that’s what’s more important 🙂