The other day Cassidy said to me, ‘Mom, am I popular?’ This is what followed:
Me: Of course you are honey, you have lots of friends don’t you?
Cassidy: Some of the kids at school said that Elizabeth and I aren’t popular.
Me: *Well, maybe if I go to school and beat thier little asses they won’t think that anymore… Wait, don’t say that. That’s probably not the ‘mom’ way to handle this.* Who said that?
Cassidy: Three kids.
Me: *Maybe I’ll kick thier parents asses too for raising such asshole kids… Nope, can’t say that.* Can you tell me who?
At this point she pretty much clamed up. She started naming random people and I could tell she was trying to come up with names. I think that some of the kids in daycare told her that becasuse she said ‘me and Elizabeth’ which is the new friend she made. Elizabeth is new to the area and is going into first grade too. She is a very quite, very withdrawn girl but she absolutley comes to life whenever Cassidy is around. They have such a good time together but Elizabeth really won’t interact with any of the other kids.
I have a feeling that since the other kids don’t really like Elizabeth because she’s so shy, Cassidy is getting crap from them too because these are the kids that used to BEG me to let Cassidy stay late and who all ran up and asked me when she’d be back when I was enrolling her before she came home from her dad’s house.
I’m not really sure what to say to her about it. I know that I’d be very uset with her if she stopped playing with Elizabeth because the other kids are being this way… but I also don’t want her to feel bad becuase she is not ‘popular’. Part of me is telling me that I need to let her grow up and deal with it how she sees fit and the other part of me wants to find out who the little kids are and discuss it with Mrs. Kaycee (daycare director) and possible parents.
*sigh* I just don’t know what to do!! I didn’t think the ‘popular’ card would be laid out on the table yet! She’s only 5 for Christ’s Sake!