Love > Biology

Cassidy will be leaving to go to her biological fathers house for a month and a half on the 18th. As much as I try to not let this effect me, it does. And because of it I’ve been in a foul mood for about a week now. The kind of mood where I don’t want anybody else in the world to exist except for my family and a few close friends. So if I’ve blown you off or not responded to you or been generally bitchy, I’m sorry. I’ve been focusing my time and energy on Ben and Cassidy.

I had actually written a long rant about not getting paid child support for over two years and the fact that her father waited SIX MONTHS to call her after he saw her on Christmas but I realize that’s wasted energy. Just, wasted.

She is a very lucky girl because she has Ben in her life. Ben who gets her ready for school every day, and who makes sure her room is clean every night, and who can make her laugh with a SINGLE LOOK, and who bands with her to gang up and pick on me, and who takes the time to teach her math, and challenges her mind, and who encourages her creativity, and who expects her to be honest and trustworthy and disciplines her accordingly… but most of all who LOVES her. Loves her like she were his own child.

The kind of bond and love they share IS a father/daughter bond. I have people tell me all the time how very clear it is to an outsider that Ben is very special and very important to her.

Ben, we are BOTH so lucky to have you in our lives. I don’t tell you NEARLY enough how much your relationship with Cassidy means to me. The love, kindness and patience you’ve shown her over the last few years is extraordinary. When the teacher tells us how kind and big hearted she is, I know that most of that is NOT coming from me and my hot head. That is a quality attributed to you. Your influence over her and how her life will take shape and the kind of women she will become is something that is eternal and true and something that you should be very proud of.

You are a extraordinary man. Thank you.